Amidst the joy of the season, there is loneliness.
This time of year can be difficult for a lot of people, and there are no cliches or simple pieces of advice that can take away the pain of not being with loved ones, or not having loved ones at all.
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Part of the challenge of our human experience is to examine the richness of our interior lives. When we have neglected to care for ourselves throughout the year, the holidays can be more painful. When we have been staying in touch with our own feelings, wants and needs, and have been appreciating our own company, we can be more resilient. We can be more able to face the challenge of special occasions, which might not seem to include us.
Another opportunity for growth at this time of year is to consider how we might develop more fulfilling relationships. What has been getting in the way? We can consider different approaches.
We can look in a fresh way at the circumstances of others. With greater understanding, we can be open to more closeness and fulfilling connections.
Our moods are lifted when we bring joy to others. Perhaps we can make a list of neighbours that we call on holidays, drop a card at their door, or find a place to volunteer. Even though we might not feel like making an effort, we will be glad we did.
We might even make a new friend.